Reconstructing Fatherhood

This journey is for fathers and father figures broadly, biological, adoptive, foster, step, and chosen, as well as men expecting or planning to become fathers in the near future. Whatever your path into fatherhood, current or upcoming, this space is for you.

It’s designed for men who want to look honestly at their own fatherhood, whether you’re newly a father, further along, or a father figure to a child who isn’t biologically yours.

We’re keeping this group small, around ten to twelve fathers, to allow for real depth and real connection within the group.

Seven weeks, online, one evening a week, two hours per session. Starting first week of September 2026.

Across seven weeks, we move through: arrival and foundations, fatherhood in culture, the fatherly line and our own fathers as sons, coparenting and partner communication, shame anger and fear, trust confidence and the inner child, and a closing integration session. Full detail available on request or during the intake call.

Sessions combine intellectual input with individual and group sharing, journaling, and somatic exercises. We take a pragmatic approach, drawing on Compassionate Inquiry, Internal Family Systems, and Jungian concepts of archetypes.

This is a peer based experience aimed at mutual support. It’s designed to complement other forms of assistance, not replace them. If you’re facing significant challenges related to fatherhood or other issues, please also seek professional help. There’s no such thing as asking for too much help.

Acceptance. We start by accepting what’s here, thoughts, emotions, sensations, everything. We move away from the shoulds and coulds and would haves. If it’s here, it belongs.

Embodied Presence. With acceptance, we stay in the now. This is where our truth and our power lie. Our bodies are the gateway to what is here.

Vulnerability and Emotional Labeling. We stay with our emotions, name them, feel them, and share them with others. Unlayering the armor built over a lifetime. Therein lies our power.

Brotherhood. We support each other throughout the journey. Healing is a collective and relational process. My healing is your healing. As Dr. David Spiegel wisely said, "We are all healers of each other. Healing happens between people.”

Active Listening. There is real power in being heard and seen. The first step to being there for each other is listening without judgment.

Self Compassion. We can only heal and grow when we approach ourselves with compassion and curiosity. Only then can we truly show up for ourselves and for others.

This is a pay what you can journey. Suggested range: 150 to 350 euros for a comparable seven week format. Contribute what feels right and sustainable for you and your family. Financial hardship should never be the reason someone doesn’t get this support, if this is a barrier for you, please reach out directly and we’ll work it out.

The seven weeks are the beginning, not the end. Afterward, the group has the option to continue as a self directed, ongoing peer support space, weekly, built around sharing.

If you’re interested, write to hello@reconstructing-masculinity.net with any questions. The next step is a short call, around thirty minutes, so we can get to know each other and see if this is the right fit. If it is, you’ll receive an invitation to join.

I’m Juan. Originally from Argentina, I’ve called Germany home since 2015. I studied development and spent years working with vulnerable communities, both in Argentina and here. For over a decade I’ve worked in education, alongside people from many different backgrounds, ages, and walks of life. Learning is my passion, I resonate with Eric Hoffer’s words, “the truly human society is a learning society, where grandparents, parents, and children are students together.”

But my greatest teacher has been fatherhood itself. I’m father to two boys, and through that journey I’ve felt firsthand how the meaning of being a father is changing, and how little real support exists for men navigating that change. This Journey exists because I wanted that support to exist, for myself and for other fathers, and I couldn’t find it, so I’m building it.

My approach is rooted in compassion, honesty, and a belief that every father, and every father figure, deserves real space to grow into the version of himself he wants to be.